Shyness in babies and children
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A sense to feel awkward, upset, or tense especially in the presence of strangers, is shyness. A study even has related shyness with fear, because both promote the same behavioural responses in individuals, which are inhibition and withdrawal in one’s personality.
Some children are born bold and don’t feel even an ounce of shyness. But on the other hand, some children face severe shyness on public occasions that can even create a negative effect on their lives.
Shyness does have neurobiological justifications, however, this behaviour is majorly influenced by the parenting style of both father and mother. It is even said that kids with parents who have some kind of anxiety disorder are at a much higher risk of developing this internalizing behaviour for themselves. So being a parent you might want to keep continue reading.
Is shyness okay?
If your baby is tense, refuse to be held up by someone else, grasp you tightly in presence of others, or cry when tried to be socialized
Or if your child does not interact with teachers and classmates at school. Likes to sit behind and not take part in-class activities.
Then it is okay. This behaviour is natural.
You know! Not every child is born with the same genes. And if shyness is making your kid special then let it be. Maybe he or she is a better listener, observer, and thinker than the rest of the class. And don’t forget, bring less trouble in the house.
When you should be worried
About 15 percent of infants are born with a tendency toward shyness. Shy behaviour is normal in babies and children most of the time but it must be observed by the parents for it can be a sign of social anxiety or other social problems of the child. So be alert for the following and other possible alarming behaviours;
- Your baby is not developing any social traits despite your endless effort
- Cries even more in presence of a particular person (there’s a possibility that something may be wrong with the person)
- Doesn’t want to go outside of the house, even for playing with his friends or for school.
- Do not have any friends
When you see these things from a child with an age of six months to six years, then you need to get a little bit more conscious than before.
But remember that, this is something that a parent can help his children to cope with. However, in some cases, seeking professional advice is recommended.
Causes of extreme shyness in Children
Have you ever wondered What causes shyness in toddlers? As we know every action has an equal reaction, so we can say that shyness in children is due to some actions of the people around them. They can be their parents, siblings, or even friends.
Following are some of the causes of extreme shyness in toddlers:
One of the main reasons for children’s shyness is their parents being overprotective or strict. Such kids can not show themselves properly as their skills do not nourish enough. If they are to take part in a play, they will spend more time battling their inner thoughts instead of actually doing the work.
If your school-going children are getting bullied in school, this is a big concern to take action on. Constant bullying and teasing students drastically change their life. A victim of this flaw can never be the same.
Rejecting a child
Being neglected or rejected can lead to shyness in a child. Youngsters if misbehave or show some aggressiveness are neglected by their elders in order to teach them a lesson. But, sometimes this causes a feeling of loneliness in them, making them introverts and shy.
Exposing their shortcomings
A lot of parents do not keep secrets of the shortcomings of their kids. Making them self-conscious, shy, and eventually, internalization overcomes every other trait of their kid. This needs to be changed.
The constant fear of Failure
Pushing a child beyond his capabilities and demanding results that are way above his power, will end up in only one result. Fear of failure, and they will become shy to express themselves.
How to help your child overcome shyness
This question is often asked by mothers, “How to help my toddler overcome shyness?”
So to answer this question of most of the mom’s, we have listed a few things that you can adapt and make your child brave and bold.
Kids under six years of age need more encouragement from their parents than ever. Complimenting their small steps or uplifting their interests can help them cope with preexisting shyness.
Not every child is meant to be a doctor or an engineer. Some are to become entrepreneurs and artists in the future as well. It is time to normalize the failure. And accepting fewer grades our kids get in school with an open heart. Because no one knows if they become the next Ellon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg.
Talk to them
Spend time with your kids and listen to their daily routines at school. Kids this age want themselves to have listened. So listen and talk to them. look closely if you find any change in their behaviour after going to school.
Keep their secrets
Be a keeper of your child’s flaws. Do not advertise them. This does not help them overcome these shortcomings. Keeping them to yourself and supporting them to overcome their fears is something that will help.
Give them time to adjust
Your baby has spent nine months alone in the womb of his mother. Now if he or she is a little anxious to meet new people then it’s okay. They will overcome this behaviour with time and love from close ones.
Indulge them into sports
Sports help a lot to overcome fears and developing discipline in kids. You can encourage them to sports like swimming, hiking or even martial arts. Kids when interacting with those who have the same interests as theirs, overcome their shyness much quickly.
Ask them to do your small chores
Make them feel helpful and useful by assigning them small tasks like making a painting for their elder brother, watering the indoor plants, or even changing the food of your pet.
Just remember that shyness is totally fine until it is not affecting the health and personality of your growing kid. These early years are crucial for them and they decide the future of your child. So, let them spread their wings a bit and appreciate them for their small achievements.
Being a parent of a toddler you can share your experiences with us as well.